Advice needed

2021.12.06 11:47 JitterGrub Advice needed

Hello everyone. First of all I'd like to preface this post by acknowledging that I'm a cis het male and shouldn't be taking space on this sub but I really need some advice. I (29M) have recently started developing some feelings for one of my friends (26F) She's never really been in a real relationship before and has a somewhat troubled past with men, the details I am not aware of. I recently also got out of a long term relationship in the beginning of this year. I don't necessarily know what I am looking for in this part of my life. But I do know that my friend and I get along super well, we like a bunch of the same things, have crazy similar personalities and a crazy similar sense of humour, to the point that we'll oftenale the same jokes at the se time.
That's probably enough context. So I have spokem to one of my other female friends in the group about my crush towards other friend and she advised me to just take it slow and develop a better one on one relationship with her first and find out what her general headspace is etc regarding relationships and what she wants - this was honestly really good advice. And it had been going really well! We had been spending more time with each other alone and been texting more and more so I thought things were going pretty well.
Which brings me to last weekend. I had an extremely rare packed Saturday with social commitments, one of which was the aforementioned crush and another friend's graduation which I was invited to by friend 2. Then we went our separate ways to grab some drinks with friend 2 and then I was invited to a mutual friend's flat party later in the day.
Crush texts me to ask me if I'll be going and I say yes! So we all go to the party and all of us are generally vibing and having a good time. At this point I have been drinking pretty much all day but I'm not overly inebriated or anything. Crush is drinking a bit heavily (this was clearer on restrospection) and we do shots. Then decide to go to a baclub. While a bunch of us are walking to the bar, crush tells me she's hurt her knees and we gotta go slow and asks for help on the stairs etc and of course I oblige. Then she takes my hand and suddenly were holding hands! Like interlocked fingers and what not, and we've been getting touchy feely from then even at the bar. But I'm not trying to give it a lot of thought...
More drinks and at some point crush tried to hand me her flat keys cause she says she's getting pretty drunk. I respond very confused not understanding why she'd want anyone to hold her flat keys, but friend 3 comes from the side and volunteers to take them.
Bar starts to close as it's 3am at this point and we all leave together. Friend 3,.me and crush start walking home and friend 3 says we should walk crush home to make sure she gets home safe. Crush then says friend 3 doesn't need to come because she lives in the opposite direction and I can just walk her home. Friend 3 agrees and we part ways. Some how an hour goes by and we're still wandering around the city (it's only a 20 minute walk) and I can't remember exact details of why were were aimlessly wandering about. But thoughout the walk home, were getting along really well. Cuddling for Warmth etc and I'm still not trying to think about what any of this means.
We suddenly realise crush never took the keys from friend 3 and start getting upset etc because at this point it's like 430am. But we decide to take a cab to friend 3s house to pick up the keys. Keys successfully acquired we still need to get crush home. We decide to cab it back to hers. When we get there she opens her door and I start to say bye but she invites me in and I say sure - wanted some water, needed to pee etc - still not trying to think about implications but honestly I thought at the back of my mind I wondered If this might mean something. At this point it's like 530am
We get in and get some water, and she says I can stay over if I want. I say I'm not sure and kind of ignore the question. Then she climbs in to bed and says she's feeling really cold and I joke that I can think of one way to warm her up and she laughs and says get in the bed.
I do and we instantly start to cuddle. Then things progress a little bit but we both decided we should probably not go all the way. Sparing the details it was a bunch of over the underwear dry humping and making out. Then we fall asleep cuddling.
In the morning we wake up and she's noticeably uneasy. I ask her what's wrong. She says she can't even remember going to the bar last night. So I ask her how much she remembers and she says "nothing up till right now" Now I'm panicking a bit because Im her friend and I'm supposed to be looking out for her specially for these exact situations but here I am not recognising my friend was blackout drunk and giving in to temptations instead of just leaving and going home. Granted I was really drunk as well and there are parts of the night that are fuzzy to me but clearly she was way more drunk than I was.
I explain to her everything that happened and as much as I remember. She gets really upset saying she ruins all of her male friendships in the same way and this is just going to be another one. Then says she's been having a hell of a month and so probably wanted to have some company instead of being alone that night. I assure her that's she's done absolutely nothing wrong and told her I understand and I can be adult about these things and our friendship doesn't have to end. Honestly I do really value our friendship and don't want that to end.
But basically she wants to proceed like we're pretending it never happened. I say I can do that if that's what she wants. But I have to leave because she needs to meet up with her family that are in town for graduation so we can't even spend the day together and figure shit out. So that's kind of where we left it, where I assured her that she did nothing wrong and I feel like a massive asshole for not recognising how drunk she was and am ok with proceeding like nothing happened if that how she wants to operate.
Sorry for the long winded story but I wanted to try and fit in as much context as I could. I am feeling extremely confused and shitty. I feel like I took advantage of my friend and betrayed her trust. And I want to talk to her more about this but I also want to respect her wishes to pretend like it didn't happen. Normally I would talk to friend 2 about this but I can't cause we're all in the same group and crush asked me not to.
So I wanted you ask you guys for advice. I know I massively fucked up and feel like absolute crap. But what do I do? The worst part is, I am currently on a plane going home for a month. So we won't be seeing each other for that whole time. I tried to make an effort yesterday to keep things normal but I really think we need to have another conversation about this now that we're both sober and not deathly hungover.
Thank you for reading and I appreciate any and all advice I can get.
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Zimmer screws up the clock at halftime...
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This time - he was not so lucky. Detroit was driving - he used timeouts to stop the clock and get the ball back with time for the offense - and what happens? They go for it on 4th and 10 and miss badly - and the defense give up another score.
The smart play in BOTH SITUATIONS would have been to kill the clock (actually let the other team use whatever time they wanted) and then either take a couple of deep shots or kill the clock on Offense and keep the ball out of their offense's hands.
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